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Making Life Dreams Come True for Both You and Your Loved Ones

Tuesday, March 18th, 2014

My son will be starting high school next year and he must select an area of emphasis to guide him in course selection, such as Law Enforcement or Science and Technology.   His initial reaction was to choose a path that matched his aptitude, not necessarily his passion.

This has generated plenty of discussion around the dinner table.  My husband and I shared how neither one of us followed our intuition or passion and initially wound up in unfulfilling jobs.

One of my favorite authors, Wayne Dyer, often says “Don’t die with your music still inside you.”.  In his latest book I Can See Clearly Now, he details the twists and turns his life took and how he always followed his intuition and passion to create a life of purpose and fulfillment.

We all have music inside us and we all have dreams.  Careers should be full of passion, not just paychecks.  But passions also arise in many other areas, such as travel, adventures, sports, creative outlets . . . there is no limit when it comes to passion and dreams.  These are not just bucket-list items to be checked off, but things we feel called to do in our lifetime.

As I reflected on how I arrived in a career that I love, I felt a debt of gratitude for my husband.  He has supported me along the way in more ways that I can count.  And I have done the same for him.

In Gottman Method Couples Therapy, making life dreams come true is at the top of the Sound Relationship House because it is one of the necessary ingredients inSound house relationships that work.  In fact, Gottman believes it is the most important thing.

Initially I was surprised by this statement, but as I now reflect on it, I can see from personal experience that when partners support each others dreams it generates many positive feelings.  We feel heard and supported in our relationship, cherished by our partner and happier in our life.  And I believe the same is true for our children too.

My son’s music is just now emerging, literally.  While he may have an aptitude for math, his passion is creating music.  The teen years are full of inspiration and dreams, and how he navigates his adolescence will have a tremendous impact on the rest of his life.  Helping him to feel safe to explore his dreams and to feel the supported is one of the best gifts I can give him.

It’s my way of paying it forward.

Mary Beth George, MEd, LPC

Certified Gottman Therapist

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Sex in the Digital Age – 5 Things to Tell Your Teen

Friday, July 19th, 2013

 

Because of the nature of the work I do, I am privy to some of the latest trends in what couples do in the bedroom, except the bedroom is now really cyberspace and it only takes one person with a pulse to have a sex life.  As a couples’ therapist who endeavors to teach people the joys of deeply connected intimate bonds, cybersex is throwing a wrench in the works.  Being the mother of a teen coming of age in this new sexual culture, I have realized that the standard Birds and Bees talk is not hitting the mark.  Yes folks, that’s right, you now have to teach your kids that true sexual intimacy means two live people, not one person with a good internet connection.

Tell your children . . . .

  1. You cannot fill your emotional and sexual needs online.  Building a truly connected relationship means touching each other heart and touching each other physically.
  2. Internet pornography and chat rooms are cheap thrills, and usually degrading.  It is true that the sexual scenarios played out online are steamy and real life partners may not measure up, but building a true connection takes more than a hot sex life, much more.
  3. Virtual partners, such as Furries are a growing trend.  Because these images are anthropomorphized and sexualized it is easy to confuse them for real life people.  But they are not.  They are computer generated and don’t really understand you or have an attraction to you.
  4. Develop a comfort level where you can openly talk about sex, not just dirty jokes or crude remarks.  Being able to talk to your sexual partner about what you both desire and building a true intimate connection, not just a sexual connection, is what real relationships are all about
  5. Understand that pornography, chat rooms and virtual partners are not real.  When you engage in these activities you can be hurting yourself and your partner.  You can become addicted to these things and your partner can feel betrayed, reducing your chances of having a beautiful, loving, trusting relationship.

Teach your teen not just about STDs and how to prevent pregnancy, but also the importance of building an emotional connection.

Mary Beth George, LPC, RD/LD

Certified Gottman Therapist

 

 


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