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Archive for 2020

Stonewalling: Turning Away from Conflict

Wednesday, May 27th, 2020

Stonewalling . . . one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

Suzy is a yeller. She wants to get it all out when she is angry with Bob. And she doesn’t hold back. She really lets him have it.

Bob says when she unleashes her anger, his mind goes blank and he can’t fight back.  He just wants to run away from her.  And he often does.

This  makes Suzy even more angry, so she follows him, continuing her tirade.

He tunes her out and she walks off in a huff.

The Antidote

If this scenario sounds familiar, stonewalling may be hijacking your conflict conversations. Eliminating the Four Horsemen is an important step in relationship recovery. Listen to this short video to hear the antidote to stonewalling.












Criticizing Your Partner Won’t Get You What You Want

Thursday, May 21st, 2020

Let’s face it, we are all on overload in dealing with the stressors associated with the pandemic.

Whether it is economic worries, fear of getting the virus or the the frustration of shelter-in-place, most of us are not at our best right now.

I know I’m not.  My sleep has been disrupted.  Eating and exercise routines have gone by the wayside.  I’m more irritable.

All of the stress and irritability we are feeling can ooze out in negative ways in our relationships.  We can snap at our loved ones when we really need a break.  Judgement and  disgust might be felt when we don’t see eye to eye on wearing a mask or social distancing.

If you find that communication is starting to suffer, a refresher of the antidotes to The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse . . . those toxic communication patterns that Gottman found in his research lead to relationship demise . . . is sorely needed.

In a series of four vlogs, I will review each of the Four Horsemen and their antidotes.

Let’s start with criticism.











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