Suzy is a yeller. She wants to get it all out when she is angry with Bob. And she doesn’t hold back. She really lets him have it.
Bob says when she unleashes her anger, his mind goes blank and he can’t fight back. He just wants to run away from her. And he often does.
This makes Suzy even more angry, so she follows him, continuing her tirade.
He tunes her out and she walks off in a huff.
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