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Stonewalling . . . one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse
Suzy is a yeller. She wants to get it all out when she is angry with Bob. And she doesn’t hold back. She really lets him have it.
Bob says when she unleashes her anger, his mind goes blank and he can’t fight back. He just wants to run away from her. And he often does.
This makes Suzy even more angry, so she follows him, continuing her tirade.
He tunes her out and she walks off in a huff.
The Antidote
If this scenario sounds familiar, stonewalling may be hijacking your conflict conversations. Eliminating the Four Horsemen is an important step in relationship recovery. Listen to this short video to hear the antidote to stonewalling.
Mary Beth George is a Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, Master Trainer for the Gottman Institute and co-owner of Couples Counseling & Psychotherapy Associates. She is an empty nester with a passion for rescue dogs, traveling and spending time with people that make her laugh.