May 27, 2020

Stonewalling: Turning Away from Conflict

Stonewalling . . . one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Suzy is a yeller. She wants to get it all out when she is angry with Bob. And she doesn’t hold back. She really lets him have it. Bob says when she unleashes her anger, his mind goes […]
May 21, 2020

Criticizing Your Partner Won’t Get You What You Want

Let’s face it, we are all on overload in dealing with the stressors associated with the pandemic. Whether it is economic worries, fear of getting the virus or the the frustration of shelter-in-place, most of us are not at our best right now. I know I’m not.  My sleep has […]
November 5, 2019

Date 7: Something to Believe In . . . Growth and Spirituality

In every relationship, like in life, the only constant is change. Truth. Reading that statement in Eight Dates:  Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love made me stop and reflect on how my husband and I have both changed and also how we have grown together over the years.    When we met, there […]
March 18, 2019

Date #3 . . . Let’s Get It On: Sex and Intimacy

“I admit it, I am a receiver, not a giver”.   He nodded with a playful smirk on his face. We were on our third date from the book Eight Dates:  Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Date #3 is Let’s Get It On:  Sex and Intimacy. The scene of the date had been […]
March 2, 2019

Date #2: Exploring Anger

“I see you Jake Sully”, my husband said. I burst into laughter. We were working through our second date from Eight Dates:  Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.  The topic was Agree to Disagree:  Addressing Conflict. His response was perfect. Jake Sully was the protagonist in the movie Avatar.  In the movie, the Na’Vi […]
February 13, 2019

Pucker Up . . . It’s Kiss Day

Who knew?  The day before Valentine’s Day is now known as Kiss Day.  That’s the prefect prelude to love and romance. Kissing, that wonderful, sloppy, sensual act is the gateway to a great love life.  Remember the scene from The Notebook, where Ryan Gosling and Rachel Adams were mugging down in the pouring […]